Saying Goodbye To Past Hurts

Don’t you ever just want to kick the past hurts as far as you can into the past to never have them resurface again?

Sometimes when these old emotional wounds catch up with us they almost feel like you have literally been trampled by a herd of stampeding cattle pulling oneself up off the ground dusting off the imprints & rearranging ones dishevelled self emotionally can leave us physically drained!

On reflection of our behaviour we wonder who the hell we are or what the hell happened for us to get back to this place once again we really don’t recognise ourselves but if we look hard enough it is the childlike soul in us, the tantrum thrower the bossy moody child, the sulker the blame giver, all aspects of us as the child the teenager, not the respectable adult we see in the mirror.

We are however responsible for the harmful words that we spit out or physically play out old behaviour it is damaging to those around us also to oneself, the words that fall carelessly out of ones mouth cannot be put back in, they cast shadows of doubt in others & emotionally & physically scar, we get triggered by certain things certain events naively unaware this is happening we lash out with our mouths & sadly for some their fists it is not okay to throw the weight of the tantrum throwing child around at any age, out of control anger is like a domino effect as one block topples onto another is slowly builds momentum smashing all in its path.

We all aspire to heal to release these past hurts to move on to the future to greener pastures so to speak but sometimes we all experience old hurts old pattering old behaviour it creeps in like a stealth like ninja when we least expect it & here we go again. We hear “Leave the past in the past”  “Just let go move on” if only we could Rewind the past that moment we felt hurt – Pause it for awhile deal with it then Press Play  – no need to revisit any old hurts & memories – Erased all done & dusted, good grief wouldn’t that be amazing!

Unfortunately life isn’t always like that what happens when we do leave the past in the past & we haven’t dealt with those past hurts in a healthy way & healed from them?

We can experience health issues, relationship issues, trust issues, we drag all this emotional hurt around from place to place relationship to relationship like an unwanted tatty old heavy suitcase.

So where from here how do we make the changes needed to stop the drama from unfolding into old stuff old pattering not allowing oneself to let the reckless child or adolescent loose?

Stop – Press Pause -Breath – Step Back & See who it really is that stands in front of you, not the ghosts from the past the ones that have caused hurt caused pain, stand in the adult energy the loving caring soul you are, be the adult allow yourself to be in control of your emotions your actions, taking time out to charm down before you open your mouth to speak -Contemplate.

We can not change what has been before it is in the past, we can change how we act now in the present, we can choose how we want to be in the future.

For me some past hurts that I have experienced I have healed from, some I am still healing from with time & grace I will heal. The past hurts I have experienced have come with great learning unaware at the time I was going through these tough times in my life, they were lessons I would learn to have understanding & empathy to help others that come to me for Healing, for this I am grateful. When I release past hurts if I can not speak my truth to those concerned as it may fall on deaf ears I write letters to them writing how I feel or felt about the experience, I eventually forgive them with some it is a work in progress, these letters are never posted or given to these people I always burn them, in this I am releasing myself my pain & setting my soul free, I know in a spiritual way this energy  will reach those people concerned it will be much like receiving my letters.

Forgiveness of oneself forgiveness of others standing in a loving heart is a work in progress for us all, if we practise this enough we all might just perfect it!